Judson counsels Brian on his continuing saga of the hookup that just won’t happen. The two are then joined by Dr. Israel Martinez, author of the new book, “Enhancing Pleasure for Gay Men: A Clinical Guide for Healing and Acceptance Through Better Sex.” Israel talks to Judson and Brian about shame and validation, the concept of Responsive Arousal, his own Daddy issue around the pressure to have kids, and what self care looks like for him. Israel also joins the two in helping a listener process how his lack of a father figure growing up impacted his masculinity.