"Not being a hundred percent sure all the time is a weird strength." - Haru YamadaIn this episode of Curated Questions, Ken Woodward is in conversation with Dr. Haru Yamada, a sociolinguist, intercultural communication scholar, and author of Kiku: The Japanese Art of Good Listening, to explore what it really means to listen. Haru traces her early understanding of questions back to age four, when she moved from Tokyo to New York and had to use questions as a tool for language, belonging, and survival.Together, they unpack how culture shapes communication: English often rewards “flashlight” questioning, the precise, content-driven clarity, while Japanese culture tends to favor a “lantern” approach that illuminates context, relationship, and what isn’t said. Haru also shares the harrowing accident that reshaped her understanding of listening as a health practice, linking felt-heard experiences to relational, mental, and even physical well-being.In a noisy, multitasking world, this conversation reframes listening as an active, life-giving skill, and a compass for navigating each other with empathy.Be sure to check out the weekly Curated Questions Dispatch newsletter for more fun with questions and curiosity! (https://substack.com/@curatedquestions)This Curated Questions episode can be found on all major platforms and at CuratedQuestions.com.Keep questioning!Episode NotesResources MentionedKIKU: The Japanese Art of Good Listening by Dr. Haru YamadaLynn Borton at Choose To Be CuriousJeff WetzlerAustin K GraffAntifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder by Nassim Nicholas TalebThe Power of Introverts TED Talk by Susan CainStanford Interpersonal Dynamics ClassDr. Haru Yamada on LinkedInProducer Ben FordBeauty Pill