We often ask ourselves the question is he/she the one for me?  What does he do for me?  What does she give to me? We have many ideas about what we're looking for in a long term relationship, but we don't ask ourselves the same question very often.  Why am I the one for them? What do I bring to this relationship? This is a hard question for a lot of us to answer.  We are going to explore why this is such an important question when building a relationship, whether you are starting out or have been in one for many years.  Let's get to it.