In this episode I interview Emily Nagoski, PhD., author of the New York Times bestseller “Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life”. Emily’s mission is to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. Find her at emilynagoski.comTOPICS❤️The dual control model of sexual arousal❤️Sexual spectatoring ❤️Mindfulness-based interventions for genital pain ❤️Why sexual interest is context dependent❤️Arousal nonconcordance: lubrication is not causation❤️Spontaneous/responsive desire❤️The best predictor of relationship and sexual satisfaction❤️Why pleasure is the measure of sexual wellbeing❤️Why sexual fantasies may not match up with real-life desires❤️How Emily found her way out of an abusive relationship and learned to stop blaming herselfFind the full show notes at compassionpodcast.orgSupport the podcast at www.patreon.com/compassionpodcast