Just more than a year and a half ago, my mother died. I still miss her terribly.Our relationship was not always easy, my being gay was a painful and divisive thing between us.However, once I got sick, we forged a path with one another.Four months after her death, my dad was engaged. While that was shocking, I was ill equipped for this change.What happens when dad is not showing signs of dementia or Alzheimers?Not wanting to make things worse, how do I support him when I'm across the country?My dad is much further along than I knew. He's pretty unwilling to allow my sister and I to support him around these cognitive concerns.How do we proceed in a way that protects and honors him?