Show notes
In this episode of the Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Amanda Dames, a kink consultant, sexologist, and former NYC dominatrix. Amanda shares her journey discovering her kink identity, her experience as a dominatrix, and her transition into coaching. Our conversation covers BDSM dynamics, power exchange, and how to communicate desires in relationships. Amanda emphasizes that kink is normal, shame-free, and rooted in consent, offering practical advice for couples navigating mismatched desires or introducing kink into their relationships.Introduction to Amanda Dames (00:00:48) The host introduces Amanda Dames, a kink consultant, sexologist, and former New York City dominatrix, detailing her expertise.Amanda's Kink Discovery (00:02:13) Amanda shares her early awareness of her interest in spanking and punishment, starting from the age of five.The Origins of Kink (00:03:51) Discussion on whether people are born kinky, exploring ideas like past lives, epigenetics, and trauma as potential origins.Kink vs. Fetish (00:06:42) A clear distinction is made between a kink (a nice-to-have) and a fetish (a need-to-have for arousal).Is Everyone a Little Kinky? (00:08:29) Amanda argues that most people are a little kinky but are often afraid of the word itself.Experience as a Dominatrix (00:16:43) Amanda recounts how she found a job as a dominatrix on Craigslist and what the work actually entailed.From Dominatrix to Kink Consultant (00:18:26) Amanda explains her career transition from corporate life and moonlighting as a Domme to becoming a full-time kink consultant.Living in a 24/7 D/s Relationship (00:21:25) Amanda describes her current 24/7 Dominant/submissive relationship, where she is the submissive partner with her live-in Dom.The Appeal of Submission (00:24:48) Amanda explains why being in a submissive role is appealing, highlighting the freedom and care it provides.How to Tell Your Partner About Your Kink (00:44:24) Amanda provides a step-by-step guide on how to initiate a conversation with a partner about your kinks and fetishes.Follow Amanda:Website: https://www.amandadames.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thekinkconsultant/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_kinkconsultantYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thekinkconsultantPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-kink-consultant/id1766435920Guide for couples with mismatched desire to have more open and honest conversations in a safe framework: https://www.amandadames.com/Speak-Your-Desires-with-Confidence-opt-in-1BDSM Menu for couples who are curious to explore each other's kinks: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlistFollow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
