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EP#105: TikTok’s The Bratty Cat Shares His Story on Polyamory & Kink
55 minutes Posted Oct 16, 2023 at 10:00 am.
] Kevin discusses his experiences in the kink and polyamorous communities, including his transition from swinging to polyamory and his interest in BDSM.
] Kevin explains the three components of being a masochistic bratty submissive: masochism, brattiness, and submission.
] Kevin delves into the unique relationship between a brat and a brat tamer, discussing how brats challenge authority and how brat tamers handle and guide them.
] Discussion about negotiating boundaries and consent in the kink community, including the inevitability of crossing lines and the need for communication and resolution.
] Explanation of the two types of punishments in BDSM, including punishment for wrongdoing and punishment as a means to control bratty behavior.
] Insight into the speaker's experience of managing multiple partners, including the unique circumstances of each relationship and the challenges of balancing time and communication.
] Kevin discusses his struggle with asking for sex and the fear of coming off as sexually aggressive.
] Kevin talks about the challenge of vocalizing his desires as a submissive and the importance of explicit communication.
] The host shares her observations of women's repression and inability to vocalize desires during sexual encounters, emphasizing the need for empowerment and communication.
] Kevin explains his definition of hierarchy and why he believes everyone should work towards being non-hierarchical.
] Kevin clarifies the difference between descriptive hierarchy (shared finances, living arrangements, etc.) and actual hierarchy (power dynamics and decision-making).
] Kevin discusses non-hierarchical relationships, where feelings and emotions are allowed to shift and change, and opens up about the possibility of drifting apart from his long-term partner.
] The host discusses how letting go of a previous partner led to finding a new partner and the positive experiences that came with it.
] The guest explains the concept of polyamory and talks about his partner's other partners, including a nearby partner and a long-distance partner.
] The guest discusses his experience with jealousy in relationships and emphasizes the importance of recognizing that love doesn't last forever and that partners are autonomous.
] The guest discusses general best practices for STI testing, including how often to get tested and what factors to consider.
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I had the pleasure of hosting Kevin, also known as The Bratty Cat on TikTok. Kevin is not just an amazing human and one of my favorite TikTokers, but also a member of the kink community, non-monogamous, has 4 partners, and 4 cats.
We covered so many subjects, I’m going to add them below along with clickable timestamps:
The journey in the kink and polyamorous communities [
The concept of a masochistic bratty submissive [
Understanding the dynamics of being a brat and a brat tamer [
Negotiating Boundaries and Consent [
Types of Punishments in BDSM [
Managing Multiple Partners in Polyamory [
Reluctance to Ask for Sex [
Difficulty Vocalizing Desires [
Repression and Inability to Communicate Desires [
Hierarchy: Definition and Misconceptions [
Descriptive Hierarchy vs. Actual Hierarchy [
Non-Hierarchical Relationships and Embracing Change [
The journey of finding new partners [
Polyamory and multiple partners [
Jealousy and the fluidity of relationships [
STI Testing Best Practices [
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