Four Things You Are Doing Backwards with Your Kids from Becoming You

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Four Things You Are Doing Backwards with Your Kids

31 minutes Posted Oct 18, 2023 at 10:00 am.

] Self-criticism and parenting habits linked to emotional wounds; importance of changing negative mindset.

] Encourage consistent effort, celebrate small wins, and avoid focusing on shortcomings.

] We should celebrate kids' achievements, gain their trust, and keep our promises.

] Parent struggles with bedtime routine and prioritizing self-care, but maintains promise to child with consequences for breaking trust.

] Parenting should be based on building emotional resilience, not just making children happy. It's about helping them handle frustration, disappointment, and anger.

] The focus should be on emotional resilience, not just happiness. Happiness comes from struggles and discomfort. Saving kids from challenges hinders their emotional growth and independence.

] Setting up routines and structures can alleviate the mental load and help children become independent. Montessori method encourages allowing children to make mistakes to foster independence.

] Setting them up to rely on you, feeling resentful of lack of independence, punishing them for mistakes, avoiding reflection and change, going back to old routines instead of adapting and sharing responsibilities. Healing relationship with mistakes.

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Is criticism overshadowing celebration in your parenting approach? Are you always swooping in to save your children from any discomfort?

This episode breaks down why it's so tough for us to focus on the wins and the progress crucial for our children's growth and self-esteem, why we focus on happiness instead of resiliency, and other things we do backwards in parenting.

This episode is a masterclass on what you can start doing today to cultivate more independence, resilience, happiness and self esteem in your children.

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