When we spend all of our time caring for others, it’s easy to feel resentful, disappointed, and maybe even depressed.
It’s impossible to give and give and give and expect that we can have the energy to show up in our marriages feeling connected, present and satisfied. This call is about being the change you want to see in a relationship. Today’s caller, Jennifer, would like more intimacy and connection in her marriage. We work through how much energy she is putting out and not allowing herself to process the big emotions and bandwidth that comes along with having kids, (one being special needs who requires care around the clock), a career and the recent passing of her mother.
We often navigate through life from one thing to the next just continuing to press on. Of course it’s great to be efficient and effective in life. What’s not so great is to continue to stuff and avoid feelings that are begging to be released and processed. In order to avoid these feelings, we stay busy, work harder, lose ourselves in our passions, eat, drink, and binge on social media. These coping strategies come with a high price tag-disconnection in our relationships, lack of peace, exhaustion, anxiety, resentment, burn out and mostly disconnection from ourselves. Moving those big feelings is key to creating space in your life for a healthy marriage.
Jennifer’s question-After raising kids and being on the verge of an empty nest, do I still like my husband?
Question to reflect on before listening to this episode:
- What do you really want in your marriage that you might not be giving yourself?
- Do you seldom acknowledge yourself for everything you are doing well in life?
- Are you someone that holds a lot of space for others yet slim to none for yourself?
- Do you avoid sharing your feelings and asking for your needs to be met?
If this resonates with you-give yourself permission to feel your feelings and allow yourself to celebrate all parts of YOU!
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