Don't worry it's not all about Christmas! Christmas is a great framework to discuss some really important issues.If you want to help with the amazing "Equalish" podcast, check out their crowd funding campaign, here: https://www.ifundwomen.com/projects/equal-ish-podcastPlease follow me on Instagram and TikTok @beahappierparentFull vidoes of episodes available on YouTube @alexindadlandKeywordsgender roles, fatherhood, emotional labor, parenting, equality, family dynamics, holiday traditions, shame, guilt, identitySummaryThis conversation delves into the evolving roles of parents, particularly focusing on gender dynamics in parenting. The speakers discuss how traditional gender roles impact both men and women, the importance of open conversations before becoming parents, and the need for shared emotional labor in family dynamics. They explore the significance of creating joy during holidays and the challenges of breaking down societal norms and gatekeeping. The discussion also touches on the concepts of shame and guilt in parenting, emphasizing the need to redefine identities and scripts around parenthood.TakeawaysGender roles are often gendered and can hurt both men and women.The role of fathers has evolved significantly over the years.Conversations about parenting should start before the baby arrives.Emotional labor and cognitive tasks often fall disproportionately on one partner.Teaching boys to notice and participate in household tasks is crucial.Creating joy during holidays can enhance family connections.Mothers should feel empowered to take time away from home.Shame is tied to identity, while guilt is tied to actions.It's important to challenge and redefine parenting scripts.Parents should reflect on their values and identities regularly.TitlesRedefining Parenthood: Gender Roles and Emotional LaborThe Changing Face of FatherhoodSound bites"Gender roles hurt men too.""Shame is tied to our identity.""Who do I want to be as a parent?"Chapters