Bare Marriage
Bare Marriage
Sheila Gregoire
Episode 328: The Billy Graham Rule and What It Does to Men Too
58 minutes Posted May 14, 2026 at 11:00 am.
Introduction & Interview Overview
Danielle Strickland’s Background, Abuse Advocacy Work, & Systemic Issues Within the Church
What is the Billy Graham Rule Really About? What Does it Assume About Men & Women?
Seeing Women Through the Lens of Threat or Temptation
Fear, Segregation, & Sexualization of Women (and How Porn Fuels These Narratives)
What Does the Bible Say About Men & Women Working Together?
Transparency vs. Secrecy in Leadership & Pushing Back Against a Culture of Fear & Oppression
Pastors Should be Safe People & Jesus’ Examples of Leadership Teams
Are False Allegations Really False? How Churches Should Respond to Abuse
Keys to Fight Chronic Loneliness, Are We Following Jesus or Idolizing Our Pastors/Leaders?
Abusive Constructs, How Churches Are More Sexualized Than Corporate Workplaces
Assumptions About Men & Women, Purity Culture Teachings & Listener Stories
Conclusion: Raccoons Illustrate Warnings & Safety Zones, Family Memories
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Send us Fan Mail What if the “Billy Graham rule” (or the evangelical distortion of it) says more about fear than integrity? In this episode, Danielle Strickland helps us unpack the assumptions behind the idea that men and women can’t be alone together—and ask whether it protects integrity or quietly reinforces suspicion, segregation, and control. Drawing on Scripture, leadership research, and real-world church experiences, our conversation explores how transparency—not isolation—is a stronger...