Bare Marriage
Bare Marriage
Sheila Gregoire
Episode 318: You're Allowed to Want Stuff! Talking Desire with Jay Stringer
1 hour 8 minutes Posted Mar 5, 2026 at 12:00 pm.
Intro: Who Is Jay Stringer?
From Unwanted to Desire: The Bigger Question
The Big Dilemma: The More Authentic We Become, The Less We Feel Like We Belong
How Jay Stringer Is Inviting Readers to Develop a Holistic View of Personal Development
The Five Core Longings Each Of Us Hold
The Provisional Self: The Trap of Being the "Good Kid"
The Capital “D” Divorce Vs. The Lowercase “d” divorce
Enmeshment Explained: Are You Really Okay, or Just Managing Everyone Else?
When Discipline Is Actually a Trauma Response
Low Libido Is Not the Problem — It's the Symptom
Differentiation: Why Separation Is the Secret to Desire
Wrap-Up & What's Coming Next Week
0:00
1:08:26
Download MP3
Show notes
Send us Fan Mail Jay Stringer, licensed therapist and author of Unwanted, is back to talk about his brand new book Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow. Together, we unpack why so many of us — especially those from church backgrounds — were taught to fear and suppress our desires rather than develop them. We dig into enmeshment, the "provisional self," why differentiation is actually the secret to intimacy and a healthy sex life, and why low libido...