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Dr. J.J. Peterson
Why Selling Feels Uncomfortable for So Many Leaders
28 minutes Posted Apr 13, 2026 at 8:00 am.
Why Selling Feels So Uncomfortable
Why This Conversation Matters for Leaders
The Mindset Shift From Getting to Giving
Where Our Negative View of Sales Comes From
What You’re Really Giving in a Sales Conversation
Why Experience Matters More Than Price
Why This Applies Beyond Sales
What Empathy Actually Looks Like in Practice
Why Even Perfect Communication Fails Without Trust
Reframing Sales as Service
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Selling shouldn’t feel like pressure, persuasion, or pretending to be someone you’re not.
But for a lot of leaders, it does. In this episode, Dr. J.J. Peterson sits down with Bob Burg, co-author of The Go-Giver, to unpack why so many people feel uncomfortable with sales—and how a simple shift in perspective can change everything.
They explore what happens when you stop trying to “get” the sale and start focusing on creating value, building trust, and actually helping the person in front of you.
Because the problem isn’t selling, it’s how we’ve been taught to think about it.
What This Explores
Why so many leaders feel resistance or discomfort around selling
The belief systems that shape how we show up in sales conversations
The difference between trying to convince vs. trying to serve
What it actually means to “provide value” (beyond just your product or service)
Why people are often willing to pay more for a better experience
The difference between price and value—and why it matters
If this perspective resonates, share it with someone who has ever felt that tension—the pull between wanting to serve and feeling like they have to sell.
They may not need better tactics.
They may just need a better definition.
Mentioned in This Episode
The Go-Giver by Bob Burg & John David Mann: https://thegogiver.com/the-go-giver 
The Go-Giver Sells More by Bob Burg & John David Mann: https://thegogiver.com/the-go-giver 
Website: https://burg.com 
Substack: https://bobburg.substack.com 
The Speed of Trust by Stephen Covey: https://speedoftrust.com 
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