Do your Prep work* Identify where these sexual repressive ideas came from* In some cases of rape and molestation, you should invest in a good psychotherapist or sex therapistIf you can't afford therapy, read books and articles and watch YouTube videos on the subject* Be kind to yourself: don't judge yourself for your sexual appetitesAccept your sexuality and any kinks and fetishes you may think you have* Start slow, but keep moving, and never give up* Be patient with yourself, healing takes time1) Start loving yourself and your body* Make yourself feel desirable by respecting and accepting yourselfLove yourself: eat right, practice good hygiene, and exerciseAvoid toxic and judgmental peopleGet used to looking at yourself nakedSleep nakedWalk around nude privately* Wear expressive clothingWear form-fitting clothingDress sexyWear cologne or perfumeGet a haircut or a new hairstyle* Pamper yourselfGet a massageWine and dine yourselfBuy yourself flowers for no occasion* Do whatever it takes to make yourself feel sexy2) Engage in creative activities Creative and sexual energy come from the same place. Cultivate one you stimulate the other.* For women (belly dancing)* For men and women: try salsa dancing* Express yourself through art: painting, sculpting, dancing, singing, and writing* Journal: write down your thoughts about your sexual journey and your desires3) Explore that which was forbidden: * Visit a strip club* Visit the LGBT community (if you're gay)* Explore a sex store* Watch erotic movies* Watch porn* Know the difference between erotica and porn* Listen to erotic songs* Listen to erotic podcasts* Read erotica* Read books on how to have better sex and please your partner* Buy sensual artwork, figurines, ornaments, prints, and posters4) Explore yourself and learn about your body* Masturbate, pleasure yourself* Try different sex toys.* Pay attention to what you like and how you feel* Be in the moment -- focus on how you feel* Masturbate without porn5) Flirt with the opposite sex (same sex)* Enjoy the view of attractive people (avoid staring)* When there's a mutual attraction, hold your eye contact and smile (enjoy the mutual desire)* Flirt and enjoy the connectionFlirting allows you both to determine if you're interested in sexual relations* Men: be honest about your intentions* Women: be honest about your wants6) Have sex with empathic and reciprocal people* Communicate your sexual desires with your partner before and after sexyour assertiveness and confidence can be a turn-on* Explore different sex acts and positions with your partner* Be spontaneous* Buy sex games, role play, and include another person (when you become advanced)* Be sensual and connect with your partnerclose eye contact, touch, hold, care, feel, listen to your partner,* Live in the moment, stay in the present(get your mind off the future or past,