An Evolving Man Podcast
An Evolving Man Podcast
Piers Cross
Why Ex-Boarders Struggle With Boundaries | Boarding School Trauma, People Pleasing & Leadership
19 minutes Posted May 27, 2026 at 9:00 am.
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Why do so many boarding school survivors struggle with boundaries? In this episode, Piers Cross explores how boarding school conditioning can shape people pleasing, emotional suppression and difficulty saying no later in life. Drawing on trauma theory, attachment work and years of coaching leaders and ex-boarders, Piers explores why boundaries can feel dangerous for many trauma survivors — and why nervous system regulation is essential when learning to hold healthy boundaries. Topics include:...