In this short solo episode, I reflect on one of the deepest impacts of boarding school: The loss of identity. What happens when children learn that their name, hobbies, feelings and individuality are not safe? Drawing on my recent conversation with Peter Sykes, I explore how institutional environments shape children into survival personalities — the complier, the rebel or the crushed child. We also look at why many adults later struggle to know what they truly want, and how we can begin recon...