We choose our partner and search for their attention which falls under personal accomplishment. It takes time and effort to communicate at first even if there’s mutual connection.Being in a healthy relationship implies being treated with respect and care that has an impact on our self esteem. Some people suspect that they’re getting used, if they’re being treated poorly. But they stay together because of the personal accomplishment factor. We often say to each other that no one will love us the way our current partner does, and it doesn’t let us go. When the only way out is to leave.