People think they need to go back & heal the past BEFORE they can experience the quality of life that they want. There is another way. What they don't realize is that actively participating in the quality of your own experience NOW is the way to actually end the healing cycle of the past. It's time to take over the primary operating system, from the wounded child in a cycle of soothing & avoidance by looking backwards to what was in order to justify not making a choice now. When you uncouple the meaning that the past experiences hold for you, you set yourself free to create the life experience you actually desire to have.