Have you ever heard the saying, “be careful what you wish for, you just may get it?”
Do you believe it?
Then let me ask you this: why do you keep wishing for things you don’t want?
This weekend, while I was doing house chores, I explored a new Netflix game show called “Sing On” – where talented karaoke singers competed against one another and a computer determined how accurate their vocals were.
On the third episode (Ok, I had a lot of chores to do, lol), I became fascinated at the behavior of the last three contestants.
Leading into the second to last song, which included a $1,000 bonus to those who hit a specific note, the host asked each contestant how they felt. The lone man said he was confident he’d win his $1,000 bonus.
His part of the song started off…well…quite off. He missed nearly all the notes in the first part, but came back around and DID make that $1,000 note. Alas, since the rest of his performance suffered, the computer determined he was the one to be eliminated.
He knew he had done poorly, but said something to the effect of “I said I was going to hit the $1,000 note – not that I’d hit any of the other notes, haha” And boy was he right!
The show progressed to the final two women, one of which had recently been 1st runner up in a beauty pageant. When the host asked her how she felt in the final round, with a $40k prize on the line, against just one other player, she said “I told my husband this morning to just watch, I’d get 1st runner up again!”
And in that moment, she handed the prize to the other woman. She lost by an extremely small margin.
It was such an interesting thing; watching people create in real-time. Who says reality TV isn’t real!
The truth is, our words are just one more extension of our thoughts – and a pretty powerful one at that. Both these losing contestants probably went home with the comfort of knowing they “called it”- that their predictions were right – without ever realizing they had a choice in the matter.
I once gave someone the choice to win. Two someone’s, in fact. Last year, my partner and I went to a local dinner theater on Easter Sunday.
The way this particular theater works is that you sit at a 4- or 6-top table for dinner and turn your chairs towards the stage for the performance after the meal is complete. If you do not have 4 or 6 people in your party, you are seated with strangers. I always like this. It’s fun for me to get to know people.
On this particular holiday, we were seated with a mother and her 14-year old daughter. The daughter was at an age where, I make up, she was fascinated by adults other than her mother. She engaged in my typical conversations of life and possibility with eagerness. So, at the end of the meal, right before the show started, I offered her a gift.
You see, at the start of every show, this dinner theater does a drawing for a chocolate gift basket from a local chocolate store. It’s a great way for the chocolate store to advertise and makes a tasty treat for the winner.
On this day, Easter Sunday, it was an Easter egg instead of a chocolate basket. The theater owner was getting up on stage to welcome everyone and acknowledge birthdays and anniversaries, so I looked over at the teenage girl and said, “I have a feeling someone at this table is going to win tonight. Will it be you?”
Startled, she looked back at me, hesitated briefly, and said, “Uh, no. I’m really not that lucky.”
So I turned to her mother. “You then? Are you going to win the chocolate tonight?”
And mom said, “Oh I never win those things!”
Without missing a beat, I said to them both, “OK. Then I’ll win.”
And 5 minutes later, I won a giant chocolate Easter egg. This special prize was huge -12” tall and very thick with a hollow center filled with M&Ms.
Both the mother and her daughter were shocked. But I wasn’t. I was just excited!
But why did I win? Was it because I declared I would? Partly, yes. But more than that, I was unattached.
You see, I know I’m a lucky person, and I know that my luck shows up at the perfect time. I’ve been to that theater a couple dozen times, and each time, I’ve always had the sense that one day I’d win the basket. But I was unattached to when it happened – that visit, or the next, or the one after that. I knew it would happen at the perfect time.
I simply declared what I wanted – I asked. The how and the when of it all wasn’t up to me. Had it not happened that day, it would have been no big deal. It wouldn’t have changed my knowingness that the chocolate would be mine someday, and I didn’t feel the need to “prove my powers” to strangers.
I firmly believe it happened that particular Sunday because of that 14-year old girl. She got to see the law of attraction in action that day, and I hope it’s a memory she’ll cherish.
Mine is a journey in progress, and I invite you to go on this journey with me with weekly short stories – just 5 to 10 minutes long – about the law of attraction in action, taken from my observations on my world. I’ll show you how simple shifts in perspective can bridge the gap in your own creation process and allow you to experience everything you want in life.
And this all starts today with my free gift to you, the Daily Desires worksheet. Pick this up on my website Abundability.com/podcast.
One of the things that I have found while mentoring others through using the law of attraction to get everything they want in life is that so many of us don’t give any real, focused attention, to what it is that we want in the first place!
Your Daily Desires worksheet is a place to get clear on what it is that you want, on a day by day basis, and who it is that you will be when those dreams manifest.
Print off a new Daily Desires worksheet each day. It starts with Gratitude. You want to know the fastest way to bring new desires into your life? Be grateful for what you have! Allow your whole body to feel the joy of the many, many blessings in your life.
Each morning, jot down a few things that you are grateful for. This doesn’t have to be big. It can be that you’re grateful for your delicious cup of coffee, or that your dog is so happy to see you when you come home from work. It can be that you’re grateful for electricity, or your cell phone. It can be that you’re grateful for good health, or the wonderful people in your life.
As you are writing these things down, take a moment and allow yourself to feel the feelings of joy for them. Smile. Laugh. Cry a little if it feels right.
After Gratitude, it’s time to write down Today’s Goals. Maybe you have a big meeting today that has the potential to score you new clients, or a promotion. Maybe today’s pretty ordinary, but you’re chipping away, day by day, at a large goal for your health, or wealth, or love life. Write it down. What do you want to have happen today?
And by the way, the word “today” is irrelevant. You see, the only moment that really exists is right now. We can’t access the past anymore, and the future is literally imaginary.
Now, what do I mean by that? Well, let’s take the year 2020 as an example. Did you make plans in 2020 that got canceled, or rescheduled? Anything from a hair appointment to major travel?
You see, we can make plans, but until the moment when our bodies catch up to those plans, they still have the ability to change; therefore, they are imaginary. Once we get to that moment in time, we do so in the present moment. So, all our desires are for the here and now, not the future.
This is why I use the term “Today’s Goals” on your Daily Desires worksheet – to remind you that your goals should all be composed in the present tense.
Once those goals are written out, we form them into I AM statements. The two most powerful words in the English language are I AM. This is the way we “Ask”, as The Secret taught us. We get clear on what we want, and we declare our intentions. When looking at Today’s Goals, ask yourself, “who do I need to be, or who will I become once that goal is achieved?”
If your goal was to impress the boss and score that assistant manager position, your I AM statement would be “I AM an assistant manager” – that’s the ask. Not, I want to be an assistant manager, keeping your dream in the imaginary future, but I AM an assistant manager, allowing it to be fulfilled in the eternal present moment.
If your goal was to chip away at your dream of creating your own business so you could eventually become financially independent, your I AM statement would be I AM financially independent.
Once written, speak your I AM statements out loud, and pause for a moment to feel in your body what it will feel like when your desire has materialized. You may find this feeling to feel a heckuva lot like gratitude. Spoiler – that’s sort of the point.
When we are grateful in advance for the things we desire, they’ll come to us quicker. We will go into the how’s and why’s of all of this on another episode, but for now, head on over to Abundability.com/podcast, and print your Daily Desires worksheet.
One last thing, if this concept of writing down your gratitude and getting clear on your desires is new to you, and you’re unsure if you’re willing to do it, I invite you to Eat the Pickle. Eat the Pickle is a metaphor for doing something new in life, trying something different, or taking a step outside your comfort zone. And it’s with these new actions that we stop creating the same-old, same-old life that we’re currently experiencing, and open the door for new possibilities.
It’s like that saying about the definition of insanity being “doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result”. So join me on this adventure. Eat the Pickle! Try out the Daily Desires. If it’s not your thing, it’s ok. You don’t have to enjoy, or even finish eating any of the pickles in life you try. The point is simply the willingness to try new things.
Print off your worksheet, and I’ll see you next time.