You’re a professional.It’s just four minutes.So why does this song feel like a punch in the chest?In Episode 219 – A Drummer’s Guide To… Heartbreak on the Setlist (Q from Anonymous), I answer a listener’s question about performing a song that’s deeply tied to a painful past relationship.Should you just “be professional” and play it?Or are you allowed to have boundaries in a band?We explore:🥁 The difference between suppression and emotional regulation🥁 When pushing through builds resilience — and when it’s just self-punishment🥁 How music hardwires itself to memory🥁 Whether raising it with your band is weakness… or maturity🥁 How to reclaim a song that hurts (if you choose to)This isn’t just about one sad tune.It’s about emotional labour in performance — and what professionalism actually means.If you’ve ever had to show up on stage while something personal was going on… this one’s for you.💬 Want your question answered on a future episode?Submit it here: EmilyDrums.com/ama🎯 Want a free 30-minute coaching taster session?Head to: EmilyDrums.com