I am delighted to connect with Gretchen Rubin today. She is one of the most insightful and influential observers of happiness and human nature today, with a remarkable gift for clearly conveying complex ideas from science, literature, and her life experiences engagingly, with a lighthearted touch. Gretchen has written many bestselling books, including her latest, Secrets of Adulthood. In our conversation today, we explore the open-door metaphor and the concept of drift in Secrets of Adulthood, and Gretchen explains how the proverbs she used in it can help us shape our most significant life choices. You will love this invaluable conversation with Gretchen Rubin. She is one of my favorite podcast hosts and authors, with a remarkable talent for conveying information and emotion beautifully and thoughtfully.IN THIS EPISODE YOU WILL LEARN:Gretchen shares her open door metaphor and explains why she likes to use the term open door instead of empty nestHow the concept of drift has tied into Gretchen’s careerGretchen describes her writing processHow her legal training helped her as a writerHow writing Secrets of Adulthood helped Gretchen clarify her thinking and understand the paradoxes in human natureWhy procrastination can be good or bad and how delaying decisions may lead to worse outcomesWhy regret is often unavoidable when making tough decisionsGretchen highlights the value of embracing riskSome different ways to approach desireThe difference between moderation and abstinenceConnect with Cynthia Thurlow  Follow on TwitterInstagramLinkedInCheck out Cynthia’s websiteSubmit your questions to [email protected]Connect with Gretchen RubinOn her websiteOn all social media: @GretchenRubinThe Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast