In this episode, we talk about how vulnerable it can feel to name a need, the weight of perceived pushback, and how quickly it can spiral. We dig into what we call the nag paradox—that toxic loop of asking, resisting, escalating, and shutting down—and how it traps so many of us in a cycle of sacrifice, resentment, and disconnection. Mentioned:<a href="https://bookshop.org/a/55904/9781541603516" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Wages For Housework by Emily Callaci </a> Get resources, ad-free episodes, and more at <a href="https://timetoleanpod.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">timetoleanpod.substack.com</a>Preorder <a href="https://www.lauradanger.com/no-more-mediocre" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">No More Mediocre: A Call To Reimagine Our Relationships And Demand More</a>Follow Laura: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thatdarnchat" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@thatdarnchat</a> | <a href="https://thatdarnchat.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">thatdarnchat.substack.com</a>Follow Crystal: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/itscrystalbritt" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@itscrystalbritt</a> | <a href="https://itscrystalbritt.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">itscrystalbritt.substack.com</a>Subscribe, rate, and share to help others find the showIf you or someone you know needs support: <a href="https://www.thehotline.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The National Domestic Violence Hotline</a> | 800-799-7233<hr> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.

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On the Time to Lean podcast with Laura Danger and Crystal Britt, we dig into the often-overlooked realities of domestic labor, care work, and household inequity. Through sharp cultural critiques and discussions on trending topics, we explore the systemic issues that shape our homes and lives. In each weekly episode, we tackle the topics that impact our lives, challenge the status quo, and uncover the hidden dynamics that influence how we live and work. Join us as we make time to lean into these crucial conversations and advocate for the value of the work that truly keeps the world turning.Laura, @thatdarnchat, is an educator and advocate. Crystal Britt, @itscrystalbritt, is a coach and licensed therapist in California. Find us on IG or join us on Patreon @ timetoleanpod for Ad-Free episodes, resources, book clubs, weekly virtual meet-ups and so much more!Check us out on Substack for Ad-Free episodes and supplemental resources! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.