Sarah and Alex outline how opening a het relationship is experienced differently by men and women... based on meticulously collected and analyzed scientific data, of course :) Mentioned in the episode: <a href= "https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2026/may/08/women-polyamory-open-marriage"> When women choose non-monogamy: 'It's an opportunity for more integration'</a> | <a href= "https://bookshop.org/a/100184/9780399579660">The Ethical Slut</a> | <a href= "https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/staying-sane-inside-insanity/202204/is-marriage-a-lousy-deal-for-women">Is marriage a lousy deal for women?</a> | <a href= "https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/empathy">Empathy - Psychology Today</a> | <a href= "https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/closer-encounters/202501/why-men-need-to-be-in-a-relationship-more-than-women-do"> Men need relationships more than women</a> |  Follow us: mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

Non monogamy for imperfect people. Hosted by a queer therapist and her husband of 15 years. Sarah & Alex share their experiences opening their marriage, and interview guests about the struggles & rewards of doing relationships your own way. Mistakes Were Made is part advice, part confession, part culture critique. But it's all about learning from our missteps and stumbling toward liberation. Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/. Logo design by roy franklin of the Whatever Factory - https://www.whateverfactory.org/.