The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
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Likability Expert: The Toxic Conversation Habit You Don't Realize You Have! | Vanessa Van Edwards
2 hour 26 minutes Posted Sep 10, 2026 at 5:00 am.
Intro
How to Connect With Anyone
Why Great Conversation Is a Superpower
The 3 Questions That Build Instant Connection
The Fastest Way to Build a Real Connection
How to Get to Know Someone Fast
Why Genuine Curiosity Makes You More Charismatic
The Questions That Secretly Kill Conversations
What’s Worse: Talking Too Much or Too Little?
How to Know If You Talk Too Much
How to Spot a Conversational Narcissist
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How to Know If You’re a Conversational Narcissist
The Real Reason First Dates Go Wrong
Can You Go Too Deep Too Quickly?
How to Rewrite the Story You Tell Yourself
The Psychology of Taking Control of Your Life
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What Science Reveals About Luck and Success
The 5 Personality Archetypes Explained
Why Your Personality Changes How You Should Communicate
The Psychology of the “Unlucky Struggler”
How to Escape an Awkward Conversation
How to Build Aura and Rizz
How to Become More Charismatic
The Hidden Habits That Kill Your Charisma
What “Aura” Actually Means
The Eye Contact Trick That Builds Connection
How to Become an Exceptional Listener
Who This Book Was Really Written For
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Are you sabotaging yourself with terrible communication habits and unconscious body language? Unlock the secrets of human connection to cultivate charisma, forge deeper connections, and eliminate awkward small talk for good.
Vanessa Van Edwards is a behavioral researcher and the author of Cues, Captivate, and her new book, Conversation. She returns to decode the underlying dynamics that shape relationships, providing actionable techniques to bypass social autopilot. She helps master non-verbal cues to prevent communication friction from harming your career and personal life.
In this episode, she explains:
■ The Conversation Blueprint: How to navigate the three distinct psychological levels of interaction
■ The Autopilot Trap: Why socially scripted questions like "How are you?" or "What do you do?" actually destroy connection.
■ The Mechanics of Rizz: The exact science behind conversational turn taking, why speaking for more than 45 seconds creates friction.
■ Command with Body Language: How to instantly project warmth and competence by finding your maximum resonance point.
■ The Five Story Archetypes: How to decode the psychological narratives of the people around you.
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