Show notes
Are you or your team stuck in frustration when things go wrong — blaming circumstances, venting, or spiraling instead of moving forward? In this episode of the Reality-Based Leadership Podcast, Alex Dorr shares the single most powerful coaching question every leader should have in their back pocket: What would great look like? It sounds simple. But used at the right moment, it can shift someone from full-blown drama mode to clear, accountable action in seconds. Alex takes you behind the scenes of a real event-day crisis — a billing error, a leader on the verge of a meltdown, and a colleague who chose to coach instead of fix, and breaks down exactly why this question works, when to use it, and how to make it land. If you're a leader, manager, or team member who wants to stop spinning in frustration and start adding value in messy moments, this episode gives you exactly what you need. Because the goal isn't a perfect reality. It's knowing what great looks like, and choosing to go be it. Episode Highlights: 00:01:12 - The one coaching question every leader needs 00:01:27 - The three ways to ask it 00:02:04 - The certification event story begins 00:03:20 - The billing error crisis 00:04:15 - Spiraling into low self 00:05:31 - The colleague who coached instead of fixed 00:06:25 - Why relationship matters before using this question 00:06:44 - The question lands — and shifts everything 00:08:17 - "Sounds like you already know what great looks like" 00:09:15 - Why typical "got a minute?" meetings cost you more 00:10:13 - Accountability after the moment passes 00:11:40 - Why this is the most powerful coaching question 00:12:09 - Low self vs. high self explained 00:14:08 - How the question moves us from ego to self-reflection 00:15:49 - Using it on yourself when you want to disengage 00:16:16 - Why fixers and over-functioners need this question most 00:18:49 - We all already know what great looks like 00:19:33 - Your assignment and takeaways