Life is busy. So busy. But so often we let other people and other things run our schedules and in the process of allowing this to happen: what really matters to us gets bumped. Like time with our spouse…Date nights…Fun nights…Just time to hang out. What can we do to change that?We all hit phases in life that are busy. It is totally normal! If this is you right now, don’t worry, it doesn’t mean your marriage is done – you’ve done well just to recognize the stage you’re in.I like the phrase from the Bible verse from Ecclesiastes A particular pair of researchers way back then wanted to look particularly at the crowd of married folk who were transitioning to parenthood for the first time. They found that initially, leisure time dropped but then started to go back up after the first several weeks of new parenting had passed.However, here’s what is interesting. They looked at leisure before marriage as well. If there was SHARED leisure prenatally, there was more marital love and less conflict one year later. If there was only independent leisure prenatally, there was less love and more conflict 1 year later.SO: creating shared leisure time is good! Build positivity into your marriage as a buffer against future stress.[i]The good news is that in marriages today, more married couples are sharing leisure time than was happening in 2003, 1975, or back in 1965. In this study, the researchers found that dual-earner couples spent less time in the presence of their spouse than single-earner couples. If you’re a dual-earner couple, this is tougher for you.They also found, not surprisingly, that the presence of children equated to a drop in the amount of joint leisure time with a spouse.[ii]Again, this is a normal situation to find yourself in. Many folks feel that they’re the only ones struggling, but they’re not. You are not alone. We all face these challenges! So, what can we do about all of this?First thing – drop the idea of time management. You can’t manage time. Time happens whether you think you’re managing it or not. Thinking too hard about trying to force time to do something for you means that you’re giving he power over to something outside your control. You can’t stop time or make it go slower!What you can manage is your SELF! Forget about time management and think about self-management.FREE GUIDE: Weekly Planning Calendar This weekly calendar is what Caleb uses each week. Use it to see how to manage your time and then customize it for yourself.Get the Calendar!So, how can we bring this into our daily lives?First, think about WHAT you do when you are together. How do you manage yourself during the time you have together?Here are some things for you to think about:1. Most couple’s time together is meal times, the evening and night.2. Do not cut back on sleep. As Shawn Stevenson told us in episode 38, sleep impacts the quality of your marriage. Again, do not cut back on sleep!3. Think about the role of TV and movies in your life. Caleb and I do not own a TV, nor do we subscribe to Netflix or any such streaming service. We do breath oxygen and put our pants on one leg at a ti...