Average rating:

out of 3345 ratings.

Love it!

by anotherhuman.. on
Rating: ★★★★☆

Such an entertaining yet helpful podcast! I love it!

Great for those without time to read self help book

by jcd99pq on
Rating: ★★★★★

I’m a full time grad student and work on the side so this podcast is amazing since I don’t always have time to read a whole book! Love their personalities and an amazing premise

What a brilliant idea for a podcast!

by LorLorV25 on
Rating: ★★★★★

I love this show so much. It makes me feel good, gives me a laugh and even ideas on how to improve. You ladies rock. Keep it up.

Mostly fun

by eallsaskn on
Rating: ★★★★☆

I have mixed feelings about this podcast. When I started listening a year ago, I loved it. Kristen and Jolenta are mostly good company and entertaining to listen to. And although I’m not a fan or a reader of self help books, I thought the concept was intriguing. But things got a little intense (for my taste at least) during the season when there was a lot of discussion of past traumas in both K and J’s lives. I was impressed by their honesty and bravery in confronting these issues, but at the same time, the fun of the podcast got lost. For several episodes, every book was evaluated in terms of those particular experiences and concerns—it was like they were just going through the motions of the books, but they really wanted to just talk more about their healing processes. I get that when you’re dealing with a personal trauma, everything gets filtered through that lens. But as a listener who is mostly interested in the humor and lighter stuff, it was wearying. I still enjoy the show but I don’t rush to listen to every new episode immediately, the way I used to.

Relatable & funny!

by Jupc93 on
Rating: ★★★★★

I love this show and have been bingeing through the seasons over and over.They’re relatable, hilarious, and I can’t wait for each episode to come out. It doesn’t matter what book they live by, there is always something to enjoy and probably learn from their experiences.

Love Love Love

by Dranel1 on
Rating: ★★★★★

I think I’m using this podcast both as pure entertainment and a way not to have to read these books myself. Jolenta is soooo me when it comes to self help, sarcasm, and woo woo. But also Kristen is who I want to be on the outside. Loving, supportive, and optimistic. Maybe I should try to be those things on the inside too. Mehh C’est la vie!

Great topics and great hosts!

by MsMaura42 on
Rating: ★★★★★

I am so happy I’ve started listening to this podcast. So many of the books Jolenta and Kristen have lives by are on my to read list. I love hearing about what they thought of them and how living by them went. Now there are some off my list and others I am even more excited to read! Also, both ladies are funny and gotta love the husbands too!

Great review of self help books

by KathySRW on
Rating: ★★★★★

I'm enjoying this list of self help books, each episode reviews one book, then each presenter reports back after 2 weeks of practicting what each book recommends.

You will love if

by Artzebacow on
Rating: ★★★★★

You are and open minded person who has been curious about self help books especially the popular ones - from two female powerhouse voices- I’m a Gen x 50 year old who approves !! not that that matters- people just do you -

Great premise, terrible show

by SassyOne2019 on
Rating: ★☆☆☆☆

I really love the idea of this program -- two friends reading self-help books and trying out the advice. And I really tried to listen to this, checking out a half-dozen episodes. But the hosts are horrible to listen to. They're whiny and boring and self-indulgent. And the faux-modesty is a bit much. If they really had as little confidence as they claim, how would they ever have the guts to do a podcast like this? Spare me. And spare yourself from a terrible listening experience.

Cracking Up & Learning Something Too!

by LdyRidr on
Rating: ★★★★★

I have been power listening to By The Book for the last couple of days and I have cracked up, felt very touched and learned a whole lot of really interesting and informative things that I can apply to my everyday life. These two gals are hysterical but they're both very smart and lay out a lot of vulnerability all while cracking jokes and supporting each other on these mini-journeys. I'm SO glad I stumbled upon this podcast and look forward to listening to many more. Keep up the great work!

What’s the point

by Under Achiever on
Rating: ★☆☆☆☆

I wanted to like this. I am a cynic who wanted a good laugh as I have read some of these books, tried them and after awhile thought they really didn’t work. And I love to judge self help books. But at least I had a positive attitude when I was reading them and tried to give them a chance. How exactly do you think these are going to work for even 5 seconds when you both start off hating and judging ground zero. I listened to the first 2 episodes, skipped to the miracle morning and was what is the point!!! You hate this before you even start. And now unfortunately I see no point in listening as you truly do not offer your listeners anything worthwhile.

Funny and real

by podcastladyyyy on
Rating: ★★★★★

These ladies are hilarious and real. All the character attacks against Kristen are awful - she’s just being herself and if you don’t like that, unfollow and move on. No need to personally attack her views and label her.The way that Kristen supports Jolenta shows that she is a supportive, kind person. She seems like someone who is always there for others and goes out of her way to help any and every one. Jolenta, on the other hand, is funny and relatable on so many levels.Keep it going, ladies! Don’t let the haters get you down.

Better for woman, or non white straight men.

by TinderUser666 on
Rating: ★★★☆☆

I liked a lot of the episodes and I’m aware of my privilege to a degree, but some of them left me feeling like sh** for existing. Due to the hate on my being(white straight man).That being said giving it 3 stars because most episodes were good, funny, and helpful. :) I’m still however going to unsubscribe as I am privileged enough to try to remove negative influences from my life. Good luck though ladies!!!

Personal development tips & no-holds-barred sharing

by mjdicker on
Rating: ★★★★★

I’m a self-help / personal development junkie who loves this show! It’s helpful to hear a distilled version of the strategies outlined in each of the books Jolenta and Kristen read, and always fun to hear about their experience of putting them into action. I appreciate their feminist critique and willingness to share openly and honestly, especially in their audio diaries. I admire both for being raw and vulnerable about their past traumas and current challenges. It’s clear how much time and prep goes into each show, and I’m a fan!

Funny, self-help, and entertaining- WHAT?!?!

by smwtcool on
Rating: ★★★★★

I love this pod! Two amazingly sweet ladies reading and living by self help books. So funny, helpful, and amazingly real! Beware, don’t take this too seriously and remember to live your own life, but enjoy and learn a little as you are entertained!

It's growing on me!

by yakgirl52 on
Rating: ★★★★☆

At first I wasn't sure about this, but now I find that I'm enjoying this podcast a lot. And feeling a bit sorry for the husbands, for sure. One thing that would make this better to listen to - consistent volume levels. The non-studio audio tends to be at a much lower volume, so you have to turn up the volume to hear it well, but then you get blasted when it's back to the studio. Stitcher, you're trying to become a podcast heavyweight, so get the production quality more consistent please. Great content needs great production values.

Enjoy the podcast but....

by wegmanswater on
Rating: ★★★★☆

I really enjoy this podcast and have learned so much from these ladies tearing through the self help books I don’t want to. Most of the books they read require involving their partners BUT I get a little sick of Brad and Dean’s frequent appearance - I wish Jolenta and Kristen would widen their world in the podcast and have more friends, colleagues and everyday interactions involved.Truly a personal gripe but I find myself turning it off sometimes because there’s a lack of variety in terms of involved parties.Otherwise, love the show.


by Cherry83085490 on
Rating: ★★★★★

Kristin & Jolenta are so funny. I love listening to them live by each self help book and talk about how it affected their lives. A must listen!

Stop making fun of the books!

by Doctor Songwriter Who! on
Rating: ★☆☆☆☆

I used to love your show because of the comedy you guys use to talk about the self help because. But I think, you are taking the author’s personal lives and using that against the content of the books. These books are meant to help and I think they do great! Just like Jen Sincero’s book. Their personal lives have nothing to do with what they are trying to teach. Your podcast doesn’t sound like “By the book” it’s more like “Judge the book”. None of the authors are perfect in their personal lives , but they are trying to help others! Don’t you see the sincerity of that? Quit making fun of them! Can you do better? Have your written a self help book? Or are you just going to judge? Judge? Judge? Who’s book are you clowning on next?😑👿

Funny and educational - what's not to like?

by sheltiewoman on
Rating: ★★★★★

The hosts are engaging, the subject matter is interesting, and even my husband enjoys this one. He turns up his nose at everything else I listen to, which is mostly politics and technology.

My favorite-favorite podcast!

by NatalieCricket on
Rating: ★★★★★

Listening to this podcast feels like hanging out with your best friends. When the show is between seasons, I miss it just like a friend who has moved away and we’re waiting to see each other again.

Great Show

by BrianBkln on
Rating: ★★★★★

I love listening to this show! It’s a great concept and it’s really well done. The hosts are hilarious and sincere. It’s really fun to hear their take on the books they live by.


by BrM1981 on
Rating: ★★★★★

Just came across the first episode and love it already! I’m a fan of self help books, the chemistry between the friends are amazing, and they make me laugh. Downloading more episodes!

Too much man hating and blaming

by Vonnie M on
Rating: ★★☆☆☆

I used to really love this podcast. I think Kristen and Jolenta are very talented, however every time I listen lately it seems very man hating and blaming the author for being stupid if it doesn’t align with their belief system. In my opinion from listening for many many episodes, they only give the book a fair shake if the already agree with the message or like the author. If a man has written the book good luck! I suggest reading the books yourself rather than listening to this podcast.

Retracted Recommendation

by Rahstew on
Rating: ★★☆☆☆

I really enjoyed the first episode and recommended the podcast to a friend. However, after listening to many more episodes, I retracted that recommendation. The first reason is the Christian bashing by both hosts. Secondly, it just got very boring. I love self-help books but I would much rather read them myself and make up my own mind about them than to listen to their reviews.

My new favorite

by Andrea Dunlop on
Rating: ★★★★★

Funny, moving, and hilarious!

Love it

by Book Reader 1 on
Rating: ★★★★★

I’ve just discovered this podcast and am obsessed! I’ve since gone back and binged every episode from the beginning. I love the way they bring humor and enthusiasm into such honest and vulnerable storytelling! The insights they draw are great, and the little windows they provide into their experiences allow one to draw one’s own insights and conclusions as well. Thank you both for making this! My verdict is that it’s 200% made my life better and helped me through a challenging couple weeks :)

Can’t stop listening

by Pepper P0ts on
Rating: ★★★★★

I’m loving every second of this podcast. I see so much of myself in Jolenta and hope she finds these books helpful in her life!

Love this podcast

by WorldTraveler125 on
Rating: ★★★★★

I literally listened to all episodes (all 3 seasons) within 3 weeks. I listened while I was driving, brushing my teeth, washing dishes, etc. As a 30-something, I’m always thinking of ways to improve my life and this podcast help me do that in the following way:1) I get the overview of all these self-help books without having to read them AND I get to implement what I feel is relevant2) I laugh - a lot! Jolenta and Kristen are unapologetically honest and authentic and funny! 3) the hosts husbands also chime in and they are such nice people. It’s hard not to love them.I highly recommend this podcast! Thank you Jolenta and Kristen for brightening my days!

The Hosts Have Room For Growth

by A.R.R.M on
Rating: ★★☆☆☆

I've listened to most of the episodes of By the Book. I really love how Kristen and Jolenta dive into a book and try to live out whatever the author is prescribing. What a fun concept and experiment! What I don't care for is the way in which the hosts use this podcast as a platform to put others down and dig their heels in about their own beliefs. Usually when they read an email from a listener that has a perspective that differs from their own, or if that listener points out an area of growth for either host, they don't acknowledge what's being said. Instead they justify their actions and top it off with, "But you should do what works best for you." Since the podcast is based on the concept of trying self-help books with the intent to grow and learn from them, it's disappointing that the hosts seem unwilling to factor in outside perspectives on their journey. My heart goes out to both of them, as they have experienced real traumas in their life that should not be minimized in any way. But there is still a lot of room for growth from both hosts. I'd be happy to change my rating if the hosts were willing to be more open to feedback and other perspectives on their behavior while living the various books, instead of constantly justifying their behavior and in the process, putting down those who have differing perspectives from themselves. (Kristen and Jolenta, you're not right about everything -- no one is -- and that's okay!)

Fun, Insightful, and Real

by CorySC on
Rating: ★★★★★

While the premise is a bit quirky, I LOVE how the hosts handle the books. They talk about the different self help books in insightful ways that are generally humorous and have a positive outlook, but are serious when need be. They don’t hold back the affects of the ideas from the books on their lives either, which I love and is something I rarely see. Listen to this podcast if you want to hear women at times humorously and at times seriously (but always with care and insight) talking about themselves, their lives, and how self help books are a total mixed bag.

Both entertaining and efficient - the best!

by Gabby_BASTOS on
Rating: ★★★★★

I just discovered this podcast and am now backtracking to their first episode because this podcast is totally worth it. It’s fantastically entertaining to the point that I can do 6am workouts listening to this... As a fanatic for self-help books but with a strong BS detector, I’m super appreciative of these like-minded authors who summarize these top self-help books and candidly share their experiences living out the books’ advice. This is THE podcast I never knew I missed! So thrilled to have discovered it!

By the Book is my happy place

by ams1230 on
Rating: ★★★★★

I found this podcast during a rough time in my life and it provided me a lot of comfort and soothing. This is such a delightful concept, and Kristen and Jolenta bring equal doses of humor and candid realness. My morning commute wouldn't be the same without it.

Smart, Brave & Funny

by diligent flosser on
Rating: ★★★★☆

Regardless of the self-help book that they subject themselves to, Kristen and Jolenta’s combination of humor, personality, and barnyard language makes for great entertainment.

Love these ladies!

by Ramplo on
Rating: ★★★★★

This has become a favorite when I’m just floating around my house. I’ve done exactly zero of the things they’ve done, but I love listening to them and I love that they take a realistic look at all these self help books that have never done anything for me.

Funny, honest, entertaining, powerful

by mi.mo on
Rating: ★★★★★

I love these two women. I just love them. Thank you both for your humor and your generous, courageous openness. The episodes are entertaining and often moving — even when the books are not good.

These are my people

by JDonner5 on
Rating: ★★★★★

I love self help books. When I saw they did Girl Wash Your Face, I had to listen to it first to see if their opinion jived with my own. 😂 once I heard this episode, I knew they were my people! They really live each book fully and give honest opinions about how/if it affected their lives.

I love this !!

by Yttrss on
Rating: ★★★★★

I'm so happy I stumbled upon this podcast, while the concept of this podcast is very entertaining, it is really the hosts that make this podcast special. They genuinely seem kind, funny, vulnerable and brave. I really feel like everyone could learn a little from listening to the shared conversations with their spouse ( AMAZING communication skills) and the many ways they tackle the obstacles that come their ways. In my humble opinion, they are good role models for a lot of us.

This self help book junky LOVES IT

by Wilkorganizer on
Rating: ★★★★★

Omgeeee I love this podcast! It’s so enjoyable and I love hearing about a book that I don’t want/ need to read but I get the gist and can still have takeaways. Plus hearing about books I absolutely don’t need to read😂

My new favorite!

by ilikelulu on
Rating: ★★★★★

I heard about this podcast from Gretchen Rubin and it’s a fast favorite. I’ve been listening to it all week. I love the hosts so much and their husbands are such a happy bonus.

Wasn’t impressed.

by ACarrig on
Rating: ★☆☆☆☆

I wasn’t impressed by this podcast. At least with the episode I listened to, the podcast starts with a nice summary of the book but then they tore into the author making assumptions on their approach.I give them praise for “trying” to live by the rules of the books however you’re less likely to find success in any method if you approach it with a negative outlook from the start. Not to mention that a 2 week trial is far from the standard when implementing a new behavioral change. I’d argue that you’d need a longer period to implement the practices before you see compounding results.

I love this podcast! Thank you, Jolenta and Kristen!

by IrisVane30 on
Rating: ★★★★★

I seriously love this podcast! By the Book is entertaining, thought-provoking, and moving. It gives me insights about which books I might want to pick up (or which ones I might want to leave at the store). It makes me laugh, and has also brought my to tears. Especially after a recent episode, I was deeply moved by Jolenta and Kristen’s bravery and honesty in sharing personal experiences that many people would find challenging to talk about. I am grateful to learn more from your perspectives. Thank you for all the work you put into this podcast, for going out on a limb and trying these books, and for sharing parts of your lives with us.


by LezDuke on
Rating: ★★★★★


Amazing Podcaste

by Miss_mags on
Rating: ★★★★★

I seriously cannot get enough of these ladies! Every week they put out an episode this is one of my nicest treats for the week. Jolenta and Kristen offer such great perspectives, give insightful reflections and do great work to breakdown the spectrum of self help literary genre. You ladies are fabulous and funny!


by Hdbdgkabsoshdkdbdj on
Rating: ★★★★★

This podcast is pure fun and the discussion of different self-help techniques is so interesting!

5 Love Languages

by Kevin Savoie on
Rating: ★☆☆☆☆

I loved this podcast. I binge listened through to the 5 Love Languages episode. Then I hit a roadblock. The extreme judgement from Kristen in the 5 Love Languages episode was so off-putting I couldn’t even finish the episode.

I Didn’t Even Know I Needed This Podcast

by SnappyGinger on
Rating: ★★★★★

I heard about this podcast when I listened to an interview with these ladies done by Cathy Heller, and I thought the premise of the show sounded kinda boring. BUT, then I was bored at work and decided to give it a go. You guys are so effing hilarious!! I am binge-listening to this right now with my earbuds and laughing out loud! I’m pretty sure my co-workers think I’m crazy. I love your “barnyard language” and how unapologetically you are yourselves on the show. I am a Minnesota girl so I feel you! Please don’t stop being you and please don’t stop recording these!

Balanced and Entertaining

by DJLiz13 on
Rating: ★★★★★

I absolutely love Jolenta and Kristin’s perspectives on each book. They are the epitome of complimentary opposites. A lil bit of WooWoo and a lil bit of constructive criticism/realism. Also, as someone who is educated in psychology and behavior, I dislike when statistics or facts are skewed or misused. Hearing them talk about the issues of some really popular self help books gives me hope that people are reading many of these books with a grain of salt.

So cute and endearing

by Twinkle the clown on
Rating: ★★★★★

I love the friendship between these two! They make me laugh so much. And I must say I had no idea they would get so deep and insightful over self help books. I would do much rather listen to these two review self help books than ever read one myself again