Advice from Mom
Advice from Mom
Rebecca Garza-Bortman
Advice from Mom is a podcast and cross-generational effort to answer life's big questions. Featured as “new and noteworthy” on Apple Podcasts and included on NPR's The Big Listen, Advice from Mom is an advice-column show hosted by Rebecca Garza-Bortman featuring listener letters and the advice and stories of her mother, Elizabeth Skibinski-Bortman, PhD. Affectionately known on the show as “Momma B”, Dr. Bortman is a small-town family therapist “on a one-woman mission to mother a mentally healthy world.” Each episode, this mother-daughter duo explores questions sent in by their listeners with the help of a series of guest experts. They have recorded advice with actress & SNL alum, Michaela Watkins; artist and graphic journalist, Wendy MacNaughton; and NPR's The Kitchen Sisters, as well as crisis counselors, authors, and wise creative professionals of all sorts. This podcast is founded on the belief that we need our mothers like we never have before. Not just our own mothers, but the mothers of the world. Anyone can submit a question at www.advicefrom.mom/request.
Ep 40: A Grand Finale with All The Feelings
How do we say goodbye in the grandest of ways? We voyage to a land of flashbacks, jinglecrafts and one of our shamefully-favorite childhood TV shows. Let's just say we'll all be Saved by The Good Advice. With the help of a special guest, our producer & editor, Juliet Hinely, we’ve made you a super nostalgic thank you note, so you’ll never forget us! Our episode references in this show: Peach Christ in “Ep 27: Peaches Christ & Veruca Bathsalts—mothering a cultural scene” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-27-peaches-christ Eve R. Meyer in “Ep 10: Family Dynamics” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/episode-10-family-dynamics-season-1-finale Emily Chang in “Ep 26: Emily Chang with her mother, Sandy—breaking up the boys club” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-26-emily-chang Esther Perel in “Ep 14: Heart Left Hanging with Esther Perel” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/episode-14-heart-left-hanging-with-esther-perel Kitchen Sisters in “Ep 8: Making Progress” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/episode-8-making-progress Dianna L. Ploof, EdD in “Ep 6: Wise Moms of Pittsburgh” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/episode-6-wise-moms-of-pittsburgh Dr. Sue Johnson in “Ep 38: Frustrated Sugar Mama with Dr. Sue Johnson” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-38-frustrated-sugar-mama-with-dr-sue-johnson Michaela Watkins in “Ep 9: The Long Haul” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/episode-9-the-long-haul Ruth Pointer in “Ep 21: Boss & Daughter with Ruth Pointer of The Pointer Sisters” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-21-boss-daughter-with-ruth-pointer Anna Sale in “Ep 31: Looking to Plant with Anna Sale” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-31-looking-to-plant-with-anna-sale Negin Farsad in “Ep 32: Self-Care Sammiches with Lizz Winstead & Negin Farsad” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-32-self-care-sammiches Dolores Huerta in “Ep 28: Dolores Huerta & Camila Chávez—mothering social action” https://soundcloud.com/advicefrommom/ep-28-dolores-huerta-camila-chavezmothering-social-action Other things to make you laugh: Zack Morris is Trash: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLRcB4n4CGcy_r21EedmNUOyVP_puToBfr Learn some Pittsburghese: https://www.wesa.fm/post/redd-your-pittsburghese-deep-dive-how-yinz-talk If you miss us: Juliet Hinely on Twitter: https://twitter.com/juliethinely Contact Mom & Becky (not the duck): http://www.advicefrom.mom/contact Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing and Sound Design by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks: www.lovejerks.com/ Thanks to Juliet for not only being the best guest we’ve ever had on the show but also for her tireless work on this entire series. Thank you for being such an amazing partner in creating this show. What a journey it has been! Thanks for taking a chance on me! A special thanks to Jocelyn Frank for connecting me with Juliet. Be sure to check out Jocelyn’s Sound Scene exhibition at the Hirschorn Museum in Washington DC next summer. This show would not have been possible without the generous loving support of our friends and loved ones… our husbands, Jerome, Bryan, and Narooz. Our friends: Carla, Carrie, Jean, Julie, Lori, Mary Beth, Mike, Paula, Mary Lynn, Diana, Diane, Lani, Geraldine, Millie, Zak, Stephanie, Marianne, Samaland, Lisa, Sissi, Annie B, Aviva, Sydney, Kate, Emily, Michael, Sadia, Avery, Reba, Serena, Ginny, Jane, Blair, Natalie, Elliot, Amy, Ali, and I’d also like to send hugs out to my sisters of assorted varieties: Laura, Cheryl, Sylvia, and Heather. This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.
Jan 16, 2019
58 min
Ep 39: Architecting an Artful Exit with Kathleen Shannon of Being Boss
Is it possible to leave a job with grace, respect, and a feeling of success? This episode explores how to quit your job well. Thanks to a listener letter from Architecting an Artful Exit, we dive into the emotions, the logistics, and the conversations required to make an elegant exit. We’ll even sing you a never-ending song that will motivate you to practice (endings). Today’s guest is a creative career advice podcast celeb. Kathleen Shannon is one half of the duo behind the wildly popular podcast Being Boss. Their podcast offers advice on the mindset, habits, routines, boundaries, and strategies that help creatives make a living doing what they love. The podcast has over 6 million downloads and has even become a book! Running Press published Being Boss: Take Control of Your Work and Live Life on Your Terms in April of 2018. .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS Being Boss, The Podcast: https://beingboss.club/podcast Being Boss, The book: https://beingboss.club/book More resources from Kathleen: https://beingboss.club/materials/worksheets Practice, the song: https://youtu.be/uqemglBALr0 Kathleen’s Half Baked scene reference: https://youtu.be/qIqeXSYc8nE More about the amazing career path of Kavitha: https://indianparadoxsf.com/about/ .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. Support Advice from Mom and the art of jingle-making by supporting our sponsor: MYRO: Get 50% off your first order and get started today for just $5! Visit mymyro.com/pickleball and use promo code “pickleball” Special thanks to Kavita Raghavan of Indian Paradox for being part of this episode. Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing and Sound Design by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks: www.lovejerks.com/ This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.
Jan 9, 2019
35 min
Ep 38: Frustrated Sugar Mama with Dr. Sue Johnson
What do you do when you’re dreaming big, but your partner is just snoozing? What if you feel bitter about footing the bill, but your long-term relationship isn’t budging? This episode explores relationship questions that affect so many couples: How do we understand ourselves and our mates? How do we truly communicate in a relationship? Thanks to a listener letter from Frustrated Sugar Mama, we two-step our way through these questions and more. We even learn the The Protest Polka! Momma B & so many psychologists out there are thrilled for you to meet today’s guest, Dr. Sue Johnson, a clinical psychologist and the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT). Dr. Johnson is also the author of the best-selling book, Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. MOMMA B’S & DR. SUE’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS The Book: Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/hold-me-tight-sue-johnson/1100211095?ean=9780316113007 The online program: Hold Me Tight Online Couples Workshop: http://holdmetightonline.com/159.html Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/103999.Toxic_Parents Relationships and the Need To Fix Others: Are You a Fixer? https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/the-deleterious-effects-of-child-abuse/ .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. Support Advice from Mom and the art of jingle-making by supporting our sponsor: ZOLA: To start your free wedding website or registry on Zola, go to www.zola.com/pickleball Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Dr. Johnson’s interview was recorded in British Columbia, by Katie Sage! Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.
Dec 19, 2018
30 min
Ep 37: A Second Helping for The Holidays
Just in time to make you say “I love the HoliYAYs,” we’ve dusted off our very first MomNet episode. Hear Detective Momma B PhD sleuth her way through some hearty family-induced stress scenarios. If you’re already on your second listen, we promise this episode just keeps getting butter. More about the Iowa Butter Cow: https://www.iowastatefair.org/about/butter-cow/ Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing and Sound Design by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks: www.lovejerks.com/ This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.
Nov 21, 2018
24 min
Ep 36: Poetry Corner: "Children Learn What They Live"
How do childhood experiences affect our adult behaviors? We're getting literary to find some answers with one of Momma B PhD’s favorite poems! .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS The complete poem: “Children Learn What They Live” by Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/overcoming-child-abuse/201112/children-learn-what-they-live More background on the poem: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dorothy_Nolte More about automatic negative thoughts: https://www.brainmdhealth.com/blog/4-questions-to-transform-your-thinking-and-lift-your-mood/ More about Trump’s childhood minister: https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2015/10/donald-trump-2016-norman-vincent-peale-213220 More about Trump’s mom: https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2017/11/03/mary-macleod-trump-donald-trump-mother-biography-mom-immigrant-scotland-215779 Support Advice from Mom and the art of jingle-making by supporting our sponsor: ZOLA: To start your free wedding website or registry on Zola, go to www.zola.com/pickleball Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Show editing by Juliet Hinely. Check out Juliet’s other show, Believed: https://believed.michiganradio.org Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. New album out now: www.lovejerks.com This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.
Nov 14, 2018
20 min
Ep 35: Attack of The Cringe with Dr. Ellen Hendriksen of Savvy Psychologist
Have you ever been haunted by an ancient memory? Or spooked by an intrusive thought? This Halloween episode explores the fears that many of us experience. Thanks to a listener letter from Anxious in Ann Arbor, we dive into social anxiety and cringe attacks, whilst crafting you a waterproof metaphor for your anxiety. Momma B is especially thrilled for you to meet today’s guest, Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D. She is a clinical psychologist who helps millions calm their anxiety and be their authentic selves through her award-winning podcast, Savvy Psychologist, and her book, How to Be Yourself. .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. DR. MOM & DR. ELLEN’S COLLABORATIVELY PACKED BAG OF MENTAL HEALTH TREATS Mom’s fav pod, made by Dr. Ellen: Savvy Psychologist https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/savvy-psychologist Dr. Ellen’s book, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety: https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250161703 Melissa Dahl’s book: Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness: http://a.co/d/6ua047T An excerpted chapter from Cringeworthy: https://www.thecut.com/article/how-to-stop-reliving-embarrassing-memories.html A book on EMDR: http://a.co/d/eidR9ej A primer on CBT: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/cognitive-behavioral-therapy More information on intrusive thoughts: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mental-mishaps/201410/controlling-my-intrusive-thoughts?amp Mom also loves Bustle: https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-actually-deal-with-intrusive-thoughts-according-to-experts-8800188 Meet Momma B in San Francisco at Love Jerks’ Rock Opera Release Party on Saturday, Nov 3 @ The Make-Out Room bit.ly/2OtRyug .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. Support Advice from Mom and the art of jingle-making by supporting our sponsor: Green Chef: For $50 off your first box of Green Chef, go to GreenChef.us/pickleball Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. New album out this Friday: https://www.lovejerks.com This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.
Oct 31, 2018
35 min
Ep 34: Sexless Sourpuss with Erika Moen from Oh Joy Sex Toy
What do you do when you like sex way more than your partner? This episode goes places this mother-daughter duo never imagined when they are asked to answer a listener letter from Sexless Sourpuss. How will Rebecca deal when a show topic threatens to end her 27-year moratorium on talking to Momma B about S-E-X? We are so excited for you to meet our guest for this show, Erika Moen, the talented cartoonist behind “Oh Joy Sex Toy” and co-author of the upcoming book, Drawn to Sex: The Basics, coming out on Nov 6! Buy it on Powell's https://www.powells.com/book/-9781620105443&partnerID=43976 or Amazon: amzn.to/2y105LL. .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. A SEXY GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS Momma B makes book recommendations! Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again by Michele Weiner-Davis https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Busting-Step-Step-Approach/dp/0671797255/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1 Erika makes amazing sex-ed comics! Vaginal Penetration: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/vaginal-intercourse/ Sex positivity: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/sex-positive/ Come as You Are book review: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/come-as-you-are-2/ Wanna buy that book? Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski Ph.D. https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090 .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Hosted by Michael Austin Sui. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Erika’s interview was recorded by Jeni Wren Stottrup. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. Join us for our rock opera album premiere. Buy tickets: bit.ly/2OtRyug This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.
Oct 17, 2018
39 min
Ep 33: Resenting My Rich Friends with Gaby Dunn
Have you ever felt jealous of a friend’s good fortune? Do those feelings get uglier when you know that their financial freedom is thanks to parental help? This episode answers a listener letter from Resenting My Rich Friends, and explores material resentment, the mental health implications of jealousy monsters, and what to do when everyone around you has an in-home bowling alley. We are thrilled to include the guest advice of Gaby Dunn, host of the podcast and the upcoming book, Bad with Money (due out Jan 1, 2019): http://gabydunn.com/badwithmoneybook Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely and Samantha Land. Gaby’s interview was recorded by Emma Courtland. Special thanks to Heidi Vanderlee for arranging this interview. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. Join us for our rock opera album premiere. Buy tickets: https://bit.ly/2OtRyug This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.
Oct 3, 2018
29 min
Ep 32: Self-Care Sammiches with Lizz Winstead & Negin Farsad
Whether you’re building an organization, pitching your big idea, or harnessing your creative brilliance for social change, we are serving up some self-care sammiches in our first-ever advice cooking show and what might be our kookiest episode yet. We have two hilarious, wise, and self-reflective comedians as guests: Lizz Winstead of Lady Parts Justice and The Daily Show, and Negin Farsad of Fake the Nation. Let’s get that advice cookin'! .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. Lizz Winstead is the founder and chief creative officer of Lady Parts Justice League and one of the top political satirists working today. As co-creator and head writer of Comedy Central’s “The Daily Show,” she forever changed the way people get their news. Now with Lady Parts Justice League, Winstead has taken her satirical brilliance one step further, combining it with her passion for reproductive rights to expose anti-choice hypocrisy and inspiring a whole new model of activism. Learn more about her work: https://ladypartsjusticeleague.com and follow her brilliance: https://twitter.com/lizzwinstead Negin Farsad is host of Fake the Nation, a political comedy podcast on the Earwolf network and she’s a regular panelist on NPR’s Wait Wait Don’t Tell Me. She is the author of How To Make White People Laugh, a memoir-meets-social-justice-comedy manifesto, which was nominated for the Thurber Prize for Humor and recommended by Oprah Magazine. She’s also the director/producer of the feature film, The Muslims Are Coming! Listen to her every week on Fake The Nation: http://www.earwolf.com/show/fake-the-nation/ and follow her brilliance: https://twitter.com/neginfarsad .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. A BLACK & GOL’ GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS Why are we using the metaphor of a Pittsburgh Sammich, aka. a sandwich with the french fries and coleslaw inbetwixt the bread? Because it’s the PERFECT metaphor for good advice—combining unexpected things together and stacked things just so. The combination is delicious and nutritious! Also, because Momma B & Rebecca love Pittsburgh. Learn more about the wonderous world of the Pittsburgh sammich: https://www.saveur.com/pittsburgh-sandwich-history Learn more about Pittsburghese: http://guides.library.duq.edu/pittsburghese Feel your cares melt away while you watch this Julia Child highlight reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M9AITdJBTnQ Support Advice from Mom and the art of jingle-making by supporting our sponsor: Prep Dish: Try a FREE 2-week trial of Prep Dish: PrepDish.com/pickleball Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Lizz and Negin’s interview was recorded at Argot Studios, by Paul Ruest. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.
Sep 19, 2018
39 min
Ep 31: Looking to Plant with Anna Sale
Taking root in a new place can be hard, especially if it’s the 13th new place you’ve lived in the last 12 years! This episode answers a listener letter from Looking To Plant, and dives into understanding mood disorders, what it means to be a survivor, and the symbolism of a single succulent! We are pleased to start off Season 3 with guest advice from the brilliant Anna Sale, the host and managing editor of Death, Sex & Money —WNYC’s interview show about the big questions and hard choices that are often left out of polite conversation. .·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·..·:*'`*:·.·:*'`*:·. MOMMA B’S GOODIE BAG OF HELPFUL LINKS Mental Health Assessment: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/tests/health/mental-health-assessment Psych Central Mental Health Tests: https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/ Bipolar Depression Test: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/tests/health/bipolar-depression-test Living Without Depression and Manic Depression: A Workbook for Maintaining Mood Stability (New Harbinger Workbooks) by Mary Ellen Copeland https://www.amazon.com/Living-Without-Depression-Manic-Maintaining/dp/1879237741 Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions by Johann Hari https://www.amazon.com/Lost-Connections-Uncovering-Depression-Unexpected/dp/163286830X/ Better Help has its own advice section! https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/ Psych Central’s Podcast https://psychcentral.com/blog/show/ More from Anna on WNYC's Death, Sex & Money: https://www.npr.org/podcasts/458929318/death-sex-money Support Advice from Mom and the art of jingle-making by supporting our sponsor: Prep Dish: Try a FREE 2-week trial of Prep Dish: PrepDish.com/pickleball Advice from Mom is a production of Wise Ones Advice Services. It was produced by Juliet Hinely & Rebecca Garza-Bortman. Editing by Juliet Hinely. Mixed and mastered by Jake Young. Anna Sale was recorded by Fernando Arruda. Audio assistance by Bryan Garza. Our theme music is by Love Jerks. This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to offer diagnosis or treatment of any medical or psychological condition. All treatment decisions should be made in partnership with your health professional.
Sep 4, 2018
31 min
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